Why So Many Arguments in Our Relationship?

Conflicts in a couple often stem from differences in viewpoints on money, parenting, the openness of the home, and more. “How is it possible that we love each other so much and yet constantly argue?” Many couples could ask themselves this question. Countless people are surprised to see how genuine love can coexist with almost constant tension! Expressing Ourselves Without Aggression Let’s immediately set aside the case of sadomasochistic couples who take unhealthy pleasure in arguing, if only to enjoy passionate reconciliations afterward. Instead, let’s focus on “healthy” couples who, despite sincere love, seem trapped in a relentless cycle of conflict. The first explanation often lies in personality differences. During courtship, some differences go unnoticed or are minimized under the illusion that they will fade over time: “I’ll change him (or her).” These disagreements often revolve around crucial topics such as money, parenting, or even the openness of the household. On top of that, there is frequently a power struggle: each partner wants to maintain their individuality and refuses to be absorbed into the unity of the couple. As a result, the early stages of married life are often marked by a period of conflict until the partners find balance and adapt to one another. However, this adaptation is only possible if both partners dare to address their difficulties calmly and with kindness, using empathetic communication… and, above all, by controlling the tone with which the