Falling in love with a man who is already in a relationship? A madness, and yet, it happens quite often to many women. Love cannot be controlled and is not always reasonable. Perhaps you find yourself in this situation.
Out of sight, out of mind!
The man is certainly not exempt from responsibility; on the contrary!
He knew he was already taken, while she may have only discovered it later. They had a beautiful encounter, even though the circumstances were not ideal. To relieve her guilt, one might say that if it wasn’t her involved with this man, it would be someone else. She is not the only one responsible, because it takes two to love.
When should you hold on to this story?
Can this relationship actually work? There is a common pattern in these types of relationships, which is broken promises. Often, if not always, the man promises to leave his wife or girlfriend, to radically change his life for her.
Certain signs could suggest that he is sincere and that there are reasons to hold on to this relationship. If the man envisions a future, mentions a plan he is following, it shows that he’s integrating this relationship into his mind and genuinely intends to make a choice. If the affair seems organized, and not entirely vague, this highlights his urgency and desire to clarify your relationship. Of course, if everything remains unclear, it means the relationship is far from evolving.
In any case, I would advise not rushing things, neither for him nor for you. As often happens, a relationship might start off very passionately, but it’s essential to give it time to reflect and mature the decision. Otherwise, he may end up resenting you. On your side, you also need to feel ready and respect your own timing, while informing him of the time you’re willing to give him to make his decision.
What attitude should you adopt to get a man to make a decision?
In general, putting pressure on a man is not the best approach in a romantic relationship, and it rarely leads to positive results. The best thing to do is to show yourself as free and independent. You have a life to lead, a romantic life project to build. If he fits into it, great; if not, so be it.
The key is to respect yourself and your desires. Stop thinking only about him. The more a woman shows strength and independence, the more attractive she becomes.
At the same time, by distancing yourself from this affair, you relieve some of the pressure on him, which makes his decision easier. On the other hand, showing too much dependence is likely to scare him off, as he might feel like he’s leaving one prison (his current relationship) for another. Don’t forget one thing: love is not meant to make you suffer.
Love should be, above all, a source of happiness and pleasure.
